Paranormal Events-Coincidences: The Spider and the Lizard

November 25, 2011

Are all coincidences just random events? Are they sometimes happenings with connections that go well beyond those isolated occurrences? My stance as forcefully stated in my young adult novel, Sliding Beneath the Surface, is that the events of our lives are tightly linked to each other in ways we will never understand.

Every once in a while though, those linkages are so strong that they stand out like a road map. Here is an example.

I live in Florida with my wife Barbara and we have more than our share of spiders. The picture of one you see here came from my daughter Nicole Dillon’s photo gallery. Beautiful specimen, if you like such creatures.

Of course, these spiders sometimes decide to join us inside our home and they can be fairly large. They are definitely unwanted guests. Even so, our response is to try and capture them, if possible, and give them another chance, outside.

Over the years we’ve gotten pretty adept at placing a drinking glass over each intruder, slipping a piece of cardboard under the glass, and then carrying glass, cardboard and spider out of the house.

One day we had a particularly large, hairy specimen crawl from behind a picture on the family room wall. Barb declined to capture it and in no uncertain terms delegated the job to me. Dutiful husband that I am, the task was quickly accomplished. Once outside the front door of our house, I decided to release our unwanted guest on top of a large plant Barb keeps there.

I felt pretty good as I dumped the little critter on all that greenery, saving his life and all. Wishing him a long and happy existence, I turned to go back into the house when the plant started shaking. No spider could cause all that commotion.

The shaking stopped and when I bent down to inspect the plant more closely, I saw a very large lizard looking up at me with the spider in his mouth. In just a few gulps, the lizard downed the spider. So much for my intervention in trying to save the life of our hairy house guest, right?

Coincidence? Fate? Destiny? It truly seemed that no matter what I did, my poor little old spider was not long for this world. The exact timing and the location of the critter’s release almost seemed choreographed to end the spider’s life and provide a meal for the lizard.

Beyond clearly pointing out to me the connectivity of all things, that sliver of life also dramatically showed me how little our human plans matter when other patterns of existence lurk just around the corner.

What do you think?



If you are truly interested in paranormal phenomena, you might be interested in read my book, Carl Jung, Hauntings, and Paranormal Coincidences.  You can find it in most online bookstores. Listed below, however, are direct book links to some of the larger retail outlets in the English-speaking world:

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Ginny Rorby September 15, 2012 at 11:50 AM

I like it’s time-had-come theory, but perhaps the lizard, aware of the household commotion, and seeing you with the jar and cardboard cover, positioned him/herself to receive this gift from the household god. I don’t think we have a clue how tuned in to us our wildlife neighbors are–have to be, to live in such close proximity to us.

Doug Dillon September 16, 2012 at 10:08 PM

The household God, eh? Yeah! I like that. You think my wife will agree?
You’re right though, we have absolutely no idea how deep our connectivity to critters does.


JIM CACCAVO September 16, 2012 at 4:00 PM


Mabey the spider came in your house to escape from the lizard. Similarities with our foreign policy- sometimes the more effort we make – the worse it becomes.

I use the glass/ sheet of paper trick all the time – especially with crickets.
I found that I can redirect ants out of my kitchen by placing an empty dog food can outside the door.

Was over at my daughter’s house one day an watched as she showed her son how to catch a bug and take out in the yard ” to go home to its family,” instead of killing it.


Doug Dillon September 16, 2012 at 10:10 PM

Hey Jim,
I think you should become an animal psychologist. Dog food can, eh? Wonder if cat food would work.
Beautiful thing your daughter is doing with her son. I love it.


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